If one more "expert"** (see definition below) diagnoses our beautiful, bright kids as people
with behavioral and/or mental problems, usually some term with an intimidating,
take-it-to-the-bank Big Pharma acronym that's being slapped on kids like labels in a
grocery store... Honestly, folks. What have we become?
What if our children "with issues" are misunderstood by a society that increasingly requires
A lot has been written about "Indigo Children", a label which refers to many children born
after 1988, and the more recent "Crystalline Children". There is also a lot of controversy
surrounding other labels like ADHD, ADD, and even bipolar disorder. I use the term Indigo
Children on talk shows because it's a term that people understand and it alludes to the
"something special" aspect of the children today. It's a good way to start a discussion- but I
always follow the caveat that even this relatively flattering label is just a label like the rest
In my experience, kids and teens have quite a lot to offer, including wisdom and insight,
emotional sensitivity, and an intuition and awareness linked to a multi-dimensional
intelligence that can't be measured by traditional methods. If they're taught a skill or
information they're interested in, they embrace it and usually excel in a very short time. If
they're not interested in the information, they get antsy, are easily distracted and bored.
I've also noticed a lot of independent free thinkers in this age group, which makes
conformity with an old status quo inherently difficult, if not impossible.
The good news is, there are more and more parents and educators who are starting to
realize the issues lies not with the kids, but with the traditions of society. Click HERE to
read an email I received from a fabulous Mom that I'm sharing with her permission- this is a
wonderful example of letters I get more and more as time goes on.
The moment a label is applied to a child, they feel locked into a certain box of how they are
expected to be and behave. They feel misunderstood and branded. Behavior that might
have just been a phase becomes a social stigma. And that effectively cuts off any
communication, discussion or potential for support or healing.
So how much of the labeling and classifying that's currently going on in the schooling
systems and doctors' offices is truly accurate and helpful? When parents come to me,
saying their child has been diagnosed with one of the attention deficit diseases, my first
question is, "Can the child spend hours engrossed in a video game or art or some hobby
that is their passion?" If the answer is yes, there is no attention deficit issue. Something
else is going on.
What if we're medicating a couple symptoms and not addressing the core issues that are
causing the behaviors? How can we, as adults and parents and teachers, shift the
educational system and a society that is obviously out of sync with itself and its children?
Did we, as adults, feel supported on our life paths by school? Were we taught information
that we value today, information that we found interesting and engaging back then?
Above all, our children are forcing us to examine our lives, both individually and as a
society- what works and what doesn't- and whether the lives we create are joyful and
worth living, or just a recreation of our parents' or grandparents' lives. Are we slaves to
tradition or masters of our own destiny?
Could our children be pointing The Way?
**Expert- person with a lot of letters after their name
I haven't found a whole lot of sources for information that I consider truly helpful, but I
hope this list grows with time. If you have a service or website that you can
recommend, please email me! The main issue I have with many of the websites and
people who are geared toward supporting children is that they either support them to
conform (which is in my opinion the last thing they need) or they're too "fluffy" and
new-agey to be of any real use. But keep in mind that what I have found to be effective
usually requires a dramatic shift in the way parents and educators view themselves
and the children.
Jonah Life Institute
There are a few cds I recommend titled "Children of the Twenty First Century" (taped
in 1992) and "Children of the Twenty First Century Continues" (taped in 2007) These
recordings are valuable in that they present the children's point of view and offers
suggestions on how best to interact with your child or teen to create a meaningful
relationship out of the tradition of punishment and reward, submission and dominance
that so many of us parents fall back on as a default. It's not that we're wrong or bad,
but it's how we were raised- and many of us don't understand why it doesn't work.
After hearing these recordings, you'll better understand why...
Whisky Tango Foxtrot:
Mark Olfson, professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, said about 1.5 percent of all privately
insured children between the ages of 2 and 5, or one in 70 children, received some sort of psychotropic
drug -- whether an antipsychotic, a mood stabilizer, a stimulant or an antidepressant -- in 2007.
If a child is diagnosed with bipolar disorder between the ages of 2 and 5, about half are prescribed
antipsychotic medication- about one in 3,000 2-year-olds.
Bipolar disorder, characterized by severe mood swings, was once thought to emerge only during
adolescence or later. But Dr. Joseph Biederman, a child psychiatrist at Harvard University, transformed
views on the subject by arguing that children could have the disorder at extremely young ages. He is
credited with spearheading a more than 40-fold increase in the number of children diagnosed with bipolar
disorder over the past decade.
Biederman was accused in 2008 by Republican U.S. Senator Charles Grassley of failing to fully disclose
payments by drug companies, including some that produced medication for bipolar disorder.